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Facebook Group against Dowry
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Jad se mita do.. Strike at its roots.. School Chalo.. !!
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Domestic Violence Rises with Education..
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The Unethical Deal..
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The mathematics of Domestic Oppression
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Hum to daal roti khaane waale bande hain ji..
Amidst the support that we are getting for this awareness campaign, I got this write up from one of my friends (identity preserved) who was also asked for dowry - in a sophisticated 21st century manner. An interesting read !! Spread the word !! The more you spread the word, the more is the probability of affecting the life of someone somewhere you know.. Help them !!
21st century Sophisticated Dowry
Every educated guy these days wants an equally educated wife and in some cases their partner’s requirements clearly mention that “the girl should be working”. They want a well educated, handsomely earning, good looking, piece of decoration for their house. The guy takes a stab at evaluating the girl - meeting her, talking to her and seeing if it fits the bill. Once the guy feels "Yess!! The girl fulfills my checklist", he leaves "everything else" to his parents and asks the girl’s parents to talk to his parents - like a cattle is herded to the butcher.
Why? Because the guy is a man of principles. How can he quote his own price!
The story doesn’t end here.
Now the girl’s father humbly asks about the monetary expectations from one of a renowned Jain families in Delhi when the boy’s father says “Hum to daal roti khaane waale bande hain ji. Baaki har maa baap ke armaan hote hain apne bacchon ke liye. Aap apni marzi se bataiye kitna lagaanaa chahenge”
Another case, where the guy is NRI - a green card holder. The father has high hopes that at least this guy’s views would match the so called 21st century educated Indian. Here is what the sophisticated boy says “Uncle mere mummy papaa ki, humari family ki koi aisi expectations nahi hai, baaki ye hai ki... mere mummy papa ne bhi meri sister ke liye bachpan se hi jodna shuru kar diya tha… they spent 35 lakh in my sister’s marriage” ..and poor girl’s father is bound to think "Did I commit any blunder by investing all my hard earned money in the education of my daughter than accumulating it for her marriage ??"
Why is it always that a girl’s parents are subjected to torture of revealing their financial conditions? Why are they forced to tell their budget and then feel ashamed of it when it is compared with the flashy budget of their friends in the society?
Why can’t millionaires and billionaires set an example by keeping their son or daughter’s marriage a low profile affair? Why are they polluting the society by setting this difficult benchmark for other simple families in the society?
Height of sophistication: High class 21st century parents have devised a new way of fooling everyone - by the means of rituals. Boy’s family will send a long list of rituals to be conducted at the marriage and the rituals are nothing but a lavish give and give (never take) of gifts and hefty shagun to mark the respect of baratis and the groom. What a trick!!!
Can’t we simply conduct a marriage by conducting an Almighty’s pooja and seeking His and elders’ blessings?